Being Kaitlin's mom!

Ok, so I love my daughter, but being her mom has to be about the hardest thing I have done in my life. She pushes every button I have, and never let's up! Some days I feel completely incompetent at being a mother.
She can be the most loving, polite child around one minute and be calling me all sorts of names the next. I wish I could figure out what drives her.
She has been this way since birth almost. I clearly remember when she learned to crawl, that was it! She wanted nothing more to do with me, miss independent! I long for the perfect mother/daughter relationship!!!